That my first daughter is present and in my life;
That when holidays come she already knows my wish to connect will trigger my insecurities and she reassures me;
That even in her anger and loss, she is grounded in love;
That when her mother comes to stay with her, their time together makes me happy;
That many of the feelings that pester me about the lack of communication with my first daughter are normal for most parents – and not so different from my other children;
That even as a first mother in reunion, I am accepted more as family than as an outlier;
That my daughter is a beautiful mother and reflects love fully with her children;
That my grandchildren love me and I get to love them back;
That their birth-grandfather gets to experience that love too;
That my husband is “Uncle-Grandpa” and that is the best thing ever;
That all of my children, daughters and stepsons, are freely in relationship as siblings and bring love to the connective tissue that makes our family one;
That my daughter has the courage to be open and honest about her journey as she writes her chapters for Kathleen~Cathleen and Lost Daughters, as an adoptee with the motivation to open the doors for others;
That my daughter’s reunioneyes blog has received more than 10,000 ‘views’ – evidence that speaks for the many she represents;
That I write for the first mothers in mothertone; and with less than half of my daughter’s views have evidence that mine is one small voice in the silence for those I represent, especially those who live quietly behind relinquishment;
That I’m here and so is she.
That the potential for beauty, connection and love in life continues to expand in unexpected ways. No matter how limited life may feel, there is always a place to grow – and we do.
To read my daughter’s counterblog, please visit ReunionEyes.